Depressed Person’s Survival Guide
Introduction
I thought a lot about what I wanted to say in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, and the main message I hope my readers can take away from today is that you are not alone. Often when I tell my clients that I’ve been on the couch, sitting across from a therapist telling them all of my dirty details they’re in shock. I’ve had kids ask me “If you’re a therapist then why do you need one?” I often tell them that I too am on my own mental health journey and it began very early on in my life.
Today I want to share a part of my mental health journey in hopes that others can understand that we’re all imperfect creatures navigating the stressful path that we call life. These feelings, these behaviors you're experiencing can be worked on and helped.
I first realized something wasn’t right (excluding my debilitating anxiety ie. See previous blog) when I was eight years old and found out my father was an alcoholic. The knowledge that something was amiss in my family nearly killed me, and then I found out one year later that my parents were getting divorced. No, thank you. My parents didn’t think that I needed counseling at the time (little did they know I was internally screaming). I powered on, feeling isolated and alone not understanding that what was occurring was a symptom of a bigger issue, depression. In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I wanted to share some of the valuable tools that I have developed as a fellow human who struggles with mental health:
How to fucking get through life
Always reach out to your people: The most valuable tool I learned in my adult life is that the people in my life are there for a reason, reach out let someone you love know that you are struggling.
Journaling does help: The first time a therapist ever suggested journaling to me I just about spat in their face. Little did I know, that it works. Write all the negative shit that is going on in your head and GET IT OUT.
Move your body: It doesn’t have to be a whole weight- lifting session it can be as little as walking around the block or doing some light stretching before bed. It’s important to remember that exercise isn’t just about physical health, it is about your mental health as well.
Challenge Negative Thoughts ( I call this the depressive voice): Depression often involves negative thinking patterns. Challenge these thoughts by asking yourself if they are truly accurate or if there might be a more balanced perspective.
Seek Joy: Look for moments of joy and gratitude in your life, no matter how small. Practicing gratitude can help shift your focus away from negative thoughts.
Stick to a Routine: Establishing a daily routine can provide structure and stability, which can be especially helpful when dealing with depression.
Be Patient with Yourself: Recovery from depression takes time, and setbacks are common. Be patient and kind to yourself throughout the process, and remember that it's okay to ask for help when you need it.
Conclusion
I want to leave you here today with the understanding that this takes time. If you feel hopeless in therapy give it a few more sessions, if you are wondering if life is worth living try again the next day and see where it takes you.
